Robert Langdon has nothing on Jessica Minahan and Nancy Rappaport. While Robert Langdon was out cracking the DaVinci Code using symbology and being chased by deadly assassins Jessica and Nancy were hard at work in our public schools cracking “The Behavior Code” for our most challenging students. In their new book, “The Behavior Code: A Practical Guide to Understanding and Teaching the Most Challenging Students,” Jessica and Nancy share their wisdom and experience working with the most misunderstood population in our schools. This book is a must read for every Teacher in elementary school whether you are in a general education or special education setting. I also highly recommend that Parents read this book as well to get an understanding of what it takes to change behavior and how important it is to carry these philosophies over to the home environment. Read the rest of this entry →
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Now that we are in the dog days of summer, for those parents who are looking for a fun and educational way to improve your child’s sensory, motor and visual skills, the “In-Sync Activity Cards” might just be the way to go! The Authors of “Growing an In-Sync Child” Joye Newman, MA and Carol Kranowitz, MA, have developed fun activity cards to assist parents with their child’s sensory, motor or visual processing needs. Read the rest of this entry →
A Book That Talks About Restraint & Seclusion Through the Eyes of Children with Special Needs
Mommy, I Wish I Could Tell You What They Did To Me At School Today
Last year, we found out that restraint & seclusion can be a personal threat to our own kids; I knew I needed to take a stand, and since then have worked hard locally and online in advocacy against restraint and seclusion.
So when I saw the book by Richard S. Stripp, Sr. about Restraint and Seclusion, I knew I needed to take the time to read it. Mommy, I Wish I Could Tell You What They Did To Me At School Today is the true story of Mr. Stripp’s work as an aide in the public school system and respite worker.
And he found a way to tell their story in a way that was both emotional and heart-rending.
Restraint and Seclusion is the Story of Abuse
I found this book to be a hard read, but important for anyone who cares about children with special needs. In it, Stripp gives voice to children with special needs he encountered during his years as an aide in the public school system, many of whom were nonverbal or mostly unable to give voice to what happened to them.
Stripp used a literary technique I’ve rarely seen utilized when trying to tell the story about nonverbal children with special needs – he got into their heads and became their voice. While we will never know exactly what these children really were thinking about during these horrific experiences, Stripp gives us a rare glimpse into their possible reactions to being mentally, physically, and emotionally abused, either through callous neglect or outright abuse.
The danger of restraint and seclusion is best left to a post on the subject itself, but consider for a minute that your child can’t tell you if someone hurt them. That your child can’t tell you that someone keeps hurting them, in the name of discipline, class control, and sometimes incompetence.
I firmly believe there are more teachers of children with special needs out there who are passionate about helping the children in their care, but they are only human. And humans make mistakes, act in anger, become overwhelmed, and sometimes take the easy way out instead of doing what is right. Sometimes it happens. We hear the stories all the time, and in this book, we hear about those stories from someone who was in the classroom with these children, from someone who knew and loved these children.
Stripp warned me I might need tissues for this reading adventure, and I’m proud to say I didn’t. But I couldn’t let go of the images, of the children he introduced to me as a reader, and the advocate in me roared at the injustice of it. The thought of that happening to my own child … when I know in fact that something similar did happen … makes me want to fight all the harder for all the children out there.
Stripp shares with us stories that should shock and anger us, should overwhelm us … and hopefully they will inspire us, also, to do what we can to remember that these children can be difficult to understand, they might not be able to talk with words … but they do have a voice, and if we look hard enough we can see what they have to say.
From what could be their own words … the Children of Restraint and Seclusion:
In brief, I want to share a few quotes from the book, and I hope they will give you the same goosebumps they give me …
About a little boy named Adam, who hid his shoes because he didn’t want to go to school. Emotionally and physically abused by those he trusts, his story ends with this sad note:
“As I get put on the bus, the teacher tells me to do them all a favor and stay home tomorrow. Sounds like a great idea. I’ll try, but Mom always finds my shoes.”
Or the little boy named Tommy, who reminded me of what my own Logan might be thinking, and what he might have had to deal with strapped in his own rifton chair at school last year. Tommy, who says …
“I used to love coming to school and running around. They don’t let me do that too much anymore. Most of the day I’m strapped into this stupid chair. I hate this chair. When I’m out of the chair, I like to run. I’ll run anywhere…
When they strap me in the chair, I try to get out. Wouldn’t you? …”
Restraint and Seclusion is a Kind of Dirty Little Secret
But in Mommy, I Wish I Could Tell You What They Did to me at School Today, Stripp pulls away the veil, and makes us see this as the horrible injustice it is. I was moved, angered, and horrified at what I read … and that’s why this book MUST be read – because anyone who loves a child with special needs SHOULD be moved to action against restraint and seclusion.
Do you have your own story of Restraint and Seclusion? Have you read this book? Have questions about it? Tell us how restraint and seclusion has affected your world, and join the Cafe in vowing to make a difference.
Originally posted at Kat’s Cafe – http://katscafe.org/2012/03/24/the-book-you-must-read-if-you-care-about-restraint-seclusion/
Katrina “Kat” Moody is the primary author, editor and creator of Kat’s Cafe. When not playing at the Cafe, Katrina works as a freelance assistant, copywriter, copyeditor, designer, and a whole lot more. Kat is a wife and mother of three pretty amazing guys who all share a myriad of diagnoses, from Axenfeld Rieger Syndrome, to Epilepsy, Autism, and so much more. My little Moody gang has inspired my passion to write at the Cafe, so that she can help further connections in the special needs community. Kat is more than a wife and mom, though it tempers most of what she does, and the Cafe reflects this diversity of interests, with a new Review and Giveaway section of the Cafe (Both for the special needs community and for general family friendly products) and the Awareness Gift Shop. Everything at the Cafe is meant to help make special needs connections, real connections, and embrace/appreciate the life we have been given. You can find out more about Kat and her Moody men by visiting the “About Kat” page of the website. If you are looking for more specific information about the Cafe, are interested in pursuing giveaways, reviews, or a partnership with the Cafe, please see the “About Kat’s Cafe” page of the website.
The other day I was watching a talk show and one of the guests brought in a book to help promote disability awareness and acceptance. “Just Like You,” is a book about a spider named Boris, who has one bad leg and a field mouse, named Henry who could not hear or speak. They are best friends who play and live by themselves in the forest; the other animals bullied and shunned them because they were different. One hot day, a fire breaks out in the forest, so Boris and Henry utilize their unique ways to communicate and spread the word that a fire was taking over the forest. Once the forest animals escaped danger, they looked past Boris and Henry’s disabilities and looked at them as equals. Read the rest of this entry →
The “Thinking Persons Guide to Autism” (TPGA) edited by Shannon Des Roches Rosa, Jennifer Byde Myers, Liz Ditz, Emily Willingham, and Carol Greenburg is more than a book. It is the Autism Constitution!! I suggest the following preamble be inserted at the beginning of the book:
We the People of the United States of Autism, in Order to impart knowledge, establish Justice, insure acceptance, provide for the common understanding, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty for All, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of Autism. Read the rest of this entry →
I recently read the new book from Stanley I. Greenspan, MD and Gil Tippy, Psy D “Respecting Autism.” It provides a unique and informative perspective on behavior therapy treatment using a combination of the Developmental, Individual Difference, Relationship (DIR) model and Floortime. You get an inside look at DIR/Floortime through the utilization of case studies. These case studies come from the Rebecca School for children with Autism Spectrum Disorders located in New York. Dr. Gil Tippy is the founder and Clinical Director for the school and Dr. Greenspan was the creator of the DIR/Floortime Model. Dr. Greenspan passed away shortly after finishing this book. Read the rest of this entry →
“Social Thinking at Work: Why Should I Care,” by Michelle Garcia Winner and Pamela Crooke is a game changer. This book provides practical advice to every adult whether you are on the Autism Spectrum, Neurotypical (NT), or somewhere in between on how to navigate the social intricacies involved with the workplace. I have long held the opinion that the ability to socialize and get along with people is as important to creating a successful career as being good at your job. Thus, success very often requires a combination of academic intelligence and social intelligence. Social Thinking at Work creates a roadmap for those individuals with weaknesses in social intelligence to “better understand the expectations of the social mind.” According to Michelle and Pamela, “Our goal is to make information explicit by breaking down and defining how the social mind works, and how it’s linked to social-emotional and behavioral expectations.” Read the rest of this entry →