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by Jess

This is a common refrain at our house – sound familiar?

“Son, you look like you’ve lost focus. What do you need to do to get back on task?”

Wouldn’t it be great if your son’s behavior management was his responsibility, not yours?

Recently, my sons answer made me laugh with pride, “I need a motivator!” he said with a huge smile on his face. He quickly created an incentive for himself (something to do with ice-cream I think) and finished his homework in record speed.

Motivation is a powerful tool for behavior management. We know that the ADHD brain needs to be motivated in order to maintain focus. It is powerful when our kids begin to understand the concept and create tools to help themselves.

How do you get there?

  •  Educate your kids about the how their ADHD shows up, as early as you can, using terms they understand.

For example, you might say: “Honey, did you notice how fast you were able to clean your room when you knew that your favorite show is starting in 15 minutes? Your brain definitely focuses well when there is something you really want waiting at the other end. We’ll have to remember that next time you’re having a hard time staying on track.”

It might be helpful to share some information with them about your own motivators. They need to understand that we all need to motivate ourselves – it’s not just an ADHD thing!

  •  Have them begin to create their own motivators.

For example, you might say: “Sweetie, seems like you’re having a hard time finishing your homework tonight. What reward can you put in place to motivate your brain?”

They may not know, at first, but it helps to get them thinking in that direction.

  •  Instead of telling them what to do, encourage them to pull from a “tool-box” of tricks that you have both learned.

For example, you might sit down with them and create a list or a “box” that they can refer to. Offer to be their ‘scribe’ to get it written down.

Next thing you know, they will be off and running – on their own! That should be motivation enough for the whole family!

Article originally appeared on ImpactADHD.com and is reproduced with permission of ImpactADHD™.
Diane is the CEO and Founder of Inner Progress Coaching, she help busy professionals who are tired of feeling like there aren’t enough hours in the day to discover the real cause of stress in their lives. This allows them to bring their “A” game to work, and also to be more relaxed and “at home” with their families. She also helps families who are challenged with stress and disharmony understand how they can re-connect by focusing on what’s right for them.

Here’s a few “factoids” about Diane:

  • She have a Masters Degree from the University of Michigan in Healthcare Administration.
  • She started her career as a community educator, and have always been a teacher, trainer, and developer.
  • Her coach certification is from the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), and she is credentialed by the International Coach Federation.
  • She is a certified Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner, and also a Reiki Master.
  • She lives in Tucker, GA with her husband, two children (and two dogs).
  • She focuses on living a conscious, balanced and joyful life, and enjoy the outdoors, music, pottery, yoga, and cooking.
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